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Liberate Yourself

Dear Youth,

In every place there is a time of the year that approaches imperfection—after the autumn rain, before spring, before warmth and bloom are even dreamed off. It’s the time of the year that stands out vague, cryptic to comprehend, when narcissus just you won’t see or feel but it may or may not be there. That time of the year, however, unlike other times of the year, leaves one teeming with uncertainties. Hence, it’s a very short period of imperfection meant to strip away the inessential and leave you with a lesson on how to be grateful, and thus pass by quickly, and then it’s out of the way. In the southern regions this time of the year is called chill. And in the northern regions, where it normally subsists probably all year round, it’s still called, well, chill.

I don’t know how they do it. Sales persons. I don’t know how they are still able to sell Eskimos ice in Polar Regions. But I do know for sure that in real life, frigidity, akin to self-antipathy, is not originally meant to be a part of the ambience of civilization.

Sadly though, suppression is what most people draw towards themselves. Perhaps they do so as a result of having a lower sense of worth, or customs hyperbole of how one should regard themselves. Or perhaps it’s because of the fallacious perception of the mainstream about what true self-love is, what true liberation is, and mostly, when skies are grey.

Like plants living under irregular climates we often only practice self-love when it’s constructive. When people around us truly love us or stealthy pretend to do so we conclude that we are lovable, and thus think we too love ourselves. We accept whatever is on the platter. Like some Eskimos, we prefer buying ice from the sales persons while we can still get it gratis on our natural grounds.

But what about when we aren’t feeling narcissus just; when nobody seems to care who you are, what you are, where you come from, what you stand for? What about when the time of your year approaches that imperfection? When autumn waves goodbye at you, stepping down at the dawn of chill? When your life takes a fall down to the ground?

Well, since the beginning of this year, you probably realise that I’m only publishing for the first time this August. Here in South Africa August is the last month of the winter season.

Springs and summers are often always nice, but the winters are uncertain everywhere for all. For first, keeping warm in winter is very costly. Literally, the winter’s skies are grey. And figuratively, coldness exerts the feeling of aloofness and suppression. If one surrenders easily to the frostiness of the harsh winters, then one might not live at all to experience the warmth and the liberation of the approaching spring and summer.

That’s how the relationship between self-love and self-hate works – love being the warmth, the liberation – hate being the coldness, the suppression.

If you choose to buy people’s love just so you can feel loved, and instead of loving yourself, you’re no different from the Eskimos that choose to buy ice from the sales persons all while ice is free on their grounds. If you believe that self-love is the love externally receivable, you are simply giving up your right to liberate yourself. And you will not only fail at loving yourself, but you will also fail to keep your confidence. As a result, you will succeed to hate others and resent them for not loving you.


I am grateful to be happy in love, and to be loved now, and to be able to love because that liberates. Love liberates.

– Maya Angelou


Love Yourself From The Bottom of Your Heart

The kinda self-love that sees you through in life

This is the love that wrenches your gut for the better, pumps up your heart and makes it bleed more blood into your veins, giving your body life and your brain energy at times when you feel weak and unproductive.


Love Yourself Bluntly

The kinda self-love that puts your enemies in their places

This is the love that publicly loves you so much so everyone sees for themselves that they can’t come between you and yourself. It makes sure that you don’t let anybody make you feel like you’re nobody: you always feel that you count; you always feel that you have worth; and you always feel that your life has an ultimate significance. And even when life happens and you start to realise your unintentional clangers, you will forgive yourself easily and move on.


Love Yourself Affirmatively

The kinda self-love that gains you respect

This is the love that loves you unconditionally, yet in a balanced way, to help you own up to your actions and fix your own messes whenever you make them, making sure that you remain respectable amongst others. This love is so honest and so unselfish.


Love Yourself Ad Infinitum

The kinda self-love that builds you backup friendships & relationships everywhere

This is the love that helps you be amicable to people and to connect easily with everyone everywhere. It breaks the isolation barrier that is often to you brought by people’s judgemental treatment and the sensing of not fitting in with others. In other words, this is the love that helps you not to elude the right people simply because of the mistreatment of the wrong ones.


Love Yourself Successfully

The kinda self-love that makes you phenomenal

This is the love that gives you the determination to achieve excellence in everything that you do. It makes you push, crawl, walk, run, for as long as you keep moving forward and not give up easily despite life’s hardships and the standing by obstacles to disturb you. But this love also warns your consciousness if you’re chasing the air.


Love Yourself Easily, Better & Hasty

The kinda self-love that keeps you optimistic

This is the love that recreates you. It bring out of you a simple human being, a better person who is able to move forward quickly to the positive things in life, all while swaying away quickly from the negative things in your past life and/or life in general. When you love yourself this way, you try by all means to chase positivity and attract it from all coasts.


Love Yourself Cause Effectively

The kinda self-love that makes you make things happen

This love enables you to take cause-actions of all things good, and gives you patience to wait for the effect to take place. When you’re involved in an activity, alone or in a group, your focus becomes authentic. And you strive to be loyal at all times, while enjoying the process that aims at factoring the outcome.


Love Yourself Liberally

The kinda self-love that makes you a compassionate being

This is the love that reasons with you to see a need to be a helper of others where necessary. It makes you see the reason why you should not only strive to achieve big in life, but also strive to give back without expecting anything in return.


Love Yourself Uniquely & Authentically

The kinda self-love that makes you, well, YOU

Everyone is unique and authentic, and so are you. The mind is a potent thing, and the thoughts you permit to run through it can have brunt on you than you may realise. So with this love you can’t be pretentious about who you are. You don’t stick with people or a course that will seek to change you who you are instead of bringing out the best in you. You do not choose the best, but you always choose the one that will help you be a better YOU.


Love Yourself & Stay On Top Of The Game. Yet, Always Lay Low.

The kinda self-love that makes people seek to put you on top whereas you know (or must always keep in mind) that you’re their equal

This is the ultimate love that makes you a humble person, but not a weak person. With this love you can choose to be dutiful without being a slave. You can be polite but always frank and definite about who you are and what you stand for. You can be considerate, discerning, impartial and respectful. With this love you can be a true friend, a true sibling and a true companion to someone else. And you can be courageous, and manly/womanly when you see what you must do, and do it effectively.


It is up to you to make your life experience a content one, by living everyday mindful that you love yourself even when skies are grey. For, it is the internal love that makes you happy in love, that makes you able to love, and that liberates you. Self-love liberates. Love liberates.


Ah-Liang T E

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